We all have a story right? None of us could go through life without one. Everyone has their own problems, issues, illnesses etc, admittedly not everyone is as open about them as I am. That doesn’t make them any less important or real. This is something I am abundantly aware of.
I haven’t always been so candid with my story, I have at times hidden more than I’ve shown. More for my own benefit than someone else’s. There are moments that don’t need to be shared and believe it or not there ARE a lot of moments I still keep to myself.
As I said, my story could so easily be yours……
- Break ups…
There are millions of break ups happening daily in the world. There is absolutely nothing special about mine, except for the fact that it happened to me.
Again people suffer illnesses all the time. I am however thankful that mine are not life threatening unlike others. I personally know a lot of people who have faced life ending illnesses head on and I am inspired by them all. Their courage, grace and determination are what makes for some very serious story telling. I understand their reluctance to share stories so raw and personal.
- Breakdowns…..tanties, hissyfits & meltdowns.
Yes all of those things too, but I’m talking about mental breakdowns. Still as taboo to talk about in 2017 as teenage pregnancy was in 1957. Why? Fear! I’m sure it’s frightening for some and despite what the ill informed may think…..it’s not contagious, there is no safe quarantine period…..but if not dealt with properly it too can be fatal.
Everyone at some point in their life are hit with that brick wall of grief. The little boy who’s puppy dies, a child who no matter what age in life, looses a parent or any other significant relative, a friend, a spouse or the worst of all…..the loss of a child.
How someone deals with loss is very individual and extremely personal. There is no timeline to grief, it is it’s own demon. It can tear your world apart if not recognised and treated carefully. Never dismiss the length of time someone needs to grieve, it will be over when it’s over. Over is the wrong word, it’s never over. Life just goes on differently than before. If you’re not sure how to recognise if someone is in need of help after a loss, read the signs of grief here.
Interesting to know that grief alone can cause any one of the above life issues. It has the power, to take your life. If not physically it can do so mentally. I know, I watched it happen to my mum after the loss of my dad. I’m pleased to say, she’s almost back to her old self, but it has been a long hard road to get there.
I often get asked why I chose to write my story. Well the answer is twofold really.
1. Because I can. The same as a painter paints, a lyricist writes, a dancer dances……it’s a form of self expression, a release, a therapy of sorts. Writing for me has been the best kind of self healing I could have.
2. This wasn’t on the radar when I first started, but slowly I realised I was in a small way able to help others. I started to hear from people simply saying thanks for telling their stories too. That was a double bonus……by helping myself, I could help others. I couldn’t ask for more.
Take the time to tell your story, even if you just journal it for yourself. I’m not telling you to share it publicly, not everyone is willing to do that. I get it, we all have our own safe thresholds. I truly believe mine is less inhibited because of my history of performing.
Having said that, I can’t hope to help others writing in a private diary kept under my pillow…….and before anyone goes looking, I don’t have a diary or anything else hidden under my pillow!!!!
As long as I can know that what I have to say, little old me, Just Lisa from Australia can make a difference in someone else’s life……then I will continue to write. I will continue to be that voice for those unsure of how to use their own. I will keep writing my story so it can be our story until you can do it on your own.
If you do have a story to tell that you would like to share here on Sugarloaf I would love to read it. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me either via the comment section below or you simply drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
No matter what……you deserve to be proud of all you have been through. All those issues change us a little along the way and make us who we are.
Your story equals your life. We only get one, so live it to the fullest.